Something we were quite careful with our planning was who would be saying speeches at our wedding. You get those family members or friends who mean well but what comes out in front of a crowd of people isn't always what you'd hoped.
I was a bridesmaid at a wedding years ago where the bride's uncle had been asked to say a few words. The groom was friends with the uncle's son, the bride's cousin, and the uncle stood up and told everyone how the groom had corrupted his son and kept him out until all hours of the morning. Needless to say, everyone was horrified at the uncle.
Not letting your aunt or sibling say something at your wedding isn't wrong if they're not the best people to speak publicly. Rather ask someone you're close to that you know won't get completely trashed before they have to speak or won't embarrass you too much. It's also not unheard of to edit speeches before the day. It's your wedding and you don't want to feel a fool.
Also, if you as a woman feel that you'd like to have your say, it isn't the dark ages where women should "know their place" so unless you have a very conservative family that would frown upon this, you have every right to stand up and have your say. They're your guests too and your words are just as valuable as your partner's.
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